Ever since I had my beautiful daughter, I have been thinking a lot about the relationships between mothers and daughters. Or I guess more precisely my relationship with my mother. I have never been very close to my mother. I guess mainly because my view on the world and her view on the world is different but she doesn't like to admit that people may have different opinions than she does.
What makes me sad is that I can never remember a time in my life where I was physically loved. I know that she loves me, unconditionally, but I can not remember a time where I have been hugged or kissed or even told that she loved me. I am sure that she probably did when I was younger. I mean how can you resist kissing on a sweet babies feet or smothering a toddler in kisses.
Maybe she is just not one to express her emotions like that. When I met my husband and started being around his family it was very difficult for me at first. They are a very expressive loving family. Everyone always hugging each other. My husband is the same way with me very loving and it really took some time to get used to.
I really hope that I am not like my mother. I try to show my affection to my daughter all of the time, since I am aware of it I hope things continue to be that way. I want her to feel comfortable to come up and give me a great big hug and kiss when she is a teenager. I want for us to have a great relationship. I want to be open with her and have her be open with me.
I am realistic, I know that certain times she will not like me very much. I know that she will be sneaky and naughty, but I hope that I will not turn into my mother, as much as I love her I sure don't want to turn into her, but I would love it for my daughter to turn into me.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
4 comments:
Good for you! Always continue to give those hugs and "I love you's"!
I grew up the exact same way. It's sad. I still can remember back around when my dad use to bounce me on his knee, hold my hand when out in public. About the time i turned 5 that all stopped and i just didn't understand why. My mom never was loving as i grew up. She is now for some reason. Better late than never! A mother/daughter relationship is so special!
Just by you thinking the way you do will make a huge difference. J's perents are like that. They never say they are sround or say I love you. Sad, but he is totally the opposiet because of it. She will know she's loved for sure.
You have risen above this, simply by means of awareness! May we all endeavor to be more than our mother's, and more than we think we can!
ita! you are one special woman and your dd is very lucky she to has you for a mommy...tho it may take her years to truly understand how lucky she is.
Post a Comment